I can relate to a lot of your remarks, friends!
chai and Sarah, she does suggest to pick something else as your first new daily "non-negotiable" if you already manage dishes easily.
Shelli, we use paper plates often, too! It's just easier for us with our schedule and things, although I would like to get into a habit of using them more sparingly at some point. Right now, it's not a big priority!
chai, we have a small townhouse so that resonates for me. I think for me, part of it will entail getting rid of things that I don't really need but hold on to "just in case." If I ever do need X or Y, I can buy (or rent, borrow, etc.) it at that time.
Sarah, that is exactly why I do the dishes in our house. My husband doesn't do it very well! Actually, he is NOT like your husband in that he would probably leave them there for two years if I didn't do them. It's just not on his radar. When we first moved in together, he moved DIRTY dishes from his house to our apartment! OMG, I had forgotten about that until just now. That box leaked stinky water all over the place, haha. Yes, he actually didn't even dump out the water that was in between the bowls. I guess I knew from that moment on that kitchen cleaning duty would be all on me! ;)
Superbeauty, that sounds like a nice way to use your transition time. I agree, it could be a good opportunity to create some systems. I think you hit the nail on the head with flylady and why I didn't become a convert. This book (and I'm guessing the author's blog, too) are very similar about habits and such, and I really like her tone. She's pretty funny and self-deprecating, but I'm getting lots of good tips out of it.