My lesson was about freeing myself this year. I followed my gut instinct and left a job that wasn't working for me, starting a new job I love. I went against a lot of people's opinions in order to do it, and I ended up being right. I feel more at peace and at home than I have in awhile.
I learned that I can gain 15 lbs over my “race weight” and the world keeps turning. ;) Actually I’m still coming to terms with this and am somewhat skeptical that I can lose a few without restriction and dieting. But I’m willing to give it a try since I don’t want to ever diet again.
Oh and thinking about this some more I’ve realized I need real meals. Snacking instead of eating defined meals seems to set me up for binging.
Hi All - New here and late to the party. Nonetheless I’ll share :) For me, my biggest lesson is about my impulse to binge. To ward off those impulses/thoughts, I must eat. I cannot put off hunger intentionally or unintentionally. I tried both this past year as a means to be lean - “just capitalize on missing a meal and don’t eat a lot for dinner so that you have a deficit for the day!” Sure enough, strong impulses to binge hit me the next day until I ate a lot. I wouldn’t call the rebound eating a vintage binge variety, but it did manifest in overeating a lot, and cravings for sweets galore. And these impulses/thoughts were nothing like the overeating impulses/thoughts I have now. These binge feelings were of those that made me want to eat until I h.u.r.t.
In retrospect it’s funny to me that I spent all that time on Brain Over Binge concepts. Don’t get me wrong - I think that’s a ***fantastic book**** with ideas worth repeating, and in the workbook it directly addresses eating enough to ward off binge feelings. But how I morphed the books ideas in my (disordered) mind to self-diagnose as a binge eater, without ever really pausing to consider the fundamental “eat enough” principle, is a reflection of how limber my mind can be in distorting health advice. There were times during my hunger/fullness diet stages where I’d take super long walks and listen to this book on repeat, admonishing my brain for having these desire to eat. But those desires were born out of that very long walk + skipping breakfast + planning for a restricted day.
The obviousness of this lesson reminds me of another long-ago lesson learned about my body’s basic functioning. About 10 years ago, I ran every day (as a means to control weight, naturally). I coupled that with a lot of restriction. Occasionally I’d have a binge because of all this restriction, and my runs the next morning were a thing of beauty: I had so much energy and bounce and felt like I could literally run forever. Of course it was a rare thing for me to run the day after a binge…they usually morphed until multi-day binges, and I sure didn’t want to heed any lesson about adequate calories and performance as leanness was the only thing that I thought about. Ah, the diet-brain memories….it’s a very odd feeling to hope that others can connect to such a twisted history.
I share that twisted history, GKL, so I was nodding along. Oh yes on the idea of a limber mind distorting health advice. I also lived the wild difference between chronically underfed exercise and properly nourished exercise. It’s night and day.